7 Tips To Help You Support Your Child While Still Teaching Them a Lesson

Introduction: So You Spanked Your Child. Now What?

Parenting is tough. We struggle to make the right decisions, to do what’s right for our kids, to be the best parents we can be in an imperfect world. And these struggles are amplified when we’re raising children with special needs or disabilities. When we are trying to raise our child with multiple disabilities, there are many unknowns and variables that can make our job of parenting even more difficult. But sometimes we have to make tough decisions, some of which might leave us feeling conflicted. That’s when we need to talk. Trust your instincts and do the right thing. We all have the opportunity to make a difference in the life of another human being, no matter how big or small it may be. But whether it’s a hard decision or a particularly tough day, it always helps to hear from people who have been there.
Whether you are a parent of a child with Down syndrome, autism or any other disability or not, you have the chance to make a difference in the life of another person. And that is something that can never be taken away. When we feel overwhelmed and isolated as parents, however, it can sometimes be difficult to see the opportunities that surround us. We have to make time in our busy lives to reach out and connect with other parents, family members, friends and support groups so that we do not feel so isolated.

i spanked my child and now i feel guilty
i spanked my child and now i feel guilty

7 Ways to Support Your Children and Not Feel Guilty for What You Did

There is so much guilt surrounding spanking. Most parents believe it is bad for children and will not result in the desired behaviors. Sometimes, however, parents feel compelled to use spanking or physical punishment as an immediate consequence to stop their kids from doing something wrong. Maybe we need to find less invasive ways of stopping our children from doing these things rather than physically punishing them.
7 Ways to Support Your Children and Not Feel Guilty for What You Did
1. Think of it as a lesson learned. Many parents use spanking as a way to teach their child why they did something wrong, and what they should have done instead. Spanking can be used at the moment of the offense or at a later time after things have calmed down.
2. If you were not spanked as a child, you probably feel that it is not right to physically punish your child. If this is the case, don’t go there – do not instill that type of behavior in your child.
3. The use of spanking may have been associated with a negative situation for your family. It might be closely related to an abusive past or physical abuse from someone who is still in the family unit.
4. Even though spanking can be very effective in certain situations, it is not the right answer to every problem.
5. Children have an incredible ability to know what your intentions are and how you feel about them. If you were spanked as a child (assuming it was done the right way, of course!), take some time to talk with your children about why they did something wrong and what they can do differently next time, or if they didn’t do anything wrong at all!

i spanked my child and now i feel guilty
i spanked my child and now i feel guilty

Tips on how to Give your Child a Lesson without Getting into Trouble From the Police or Social Services

There are many parents who spank their kids less often than they would like to, usually because this method of discipline does not sit well with them. In a lot of these instances, the parents need to shift their attitude about what is acceptable for their child. Most adults believe that corporal punishment should only be used as a last resort, but I’m going to make an argument that this is an archaic notion that needs to be revisited. To be clear, I don’t advise physical violence against your own child unless it is absolutely necessary. Instead, I believe we should look at this from an ethical standpoint as well. It is important for parents to know that there are other ways of communicating with our children. Spanking is not always the best way of doing things and it doesn’t have to be the case. Below are some helpful tips that may help you lessen the pressure you feel to spank your child, so you can do what’s best for them and their needs, too.
1. Look at the situation objectively. Is it necessary to discipline your child in this way? Can you give them the education they need instead? Does their punishment fit the crime?
2. Don’t start out on a bad foot by making your child wait for you to get home from work (or pick them up from school, etc.). This also sets a better example for them, as adolescents are often impatient and impulsive in their actions and reactions.
3. Don’t spank your children when you’re angry, as a way to vent your own frustrations, or something in between. It’s not safe for you and it’s really not beneficial for your child. Instead, talk to them and help them understand how their actions affect their lives and those around them. This is the best way to get through to these kids, who are often spoiled and rude with little respect for others or themselves.

i spanked my child and now i feel guilty
i spanked my child and now i feel guilty

Tips on How to Make Sure that you’re Not Sending the Wrong Message by Spanking Your Child

Parents spank their children sometimes because they are frustrated, angry, and emotionally distraught. In most cases, they are trying to do their best and want to convey the message that hitting is not acceptable. At times like these, when parents are at an emotional high, been pushed too far or feel as if they have lost control of the situation, they will take any type of action they feel necessary. Most of the time though, parents spank their kids because they believe that it will change their behavior, get them to stop doing what they are doing, and as a result make them behave better. That is not always the case. In fact, spanking or physical punishments have shown to be ineffective as a parenting tool, and can cause long-term harm to children.
In order to make sure that you don’t unintentionally send the wrong message when you spank your child, try using one of the following three alternative methods instead:
1. Take away privileges – This is a great way to discipline your children with very little risk of long term consequences. If you have a child who is defiant and won’t behave, take away their favorite toy. Take the license to punish away. You can always bring it back when they have changed their behavior. Just make sure that you don’t give in to the moment of frustration, anger or sadness and decide that taking away privileges is an appropriate way to deal with the issue.

i spanked my child and now i feel guilty
i spanked my child and now i feel guilty

Tips on How to Teach your Kids Emotional Regulation and Boundaries Without Punishment

Many parents believe that spanking is the quickest and most effective method they can use to show their children how to regulate their emotions and respond positively to situations. Spanking your kids might make you feel better, but in the end it will not solve anything. What it will do is cause more problems because you will only be teaching them not to trust you. Instead of spanking your child you should teach him or her how to express and regulate emotions with empathy and kindness in a positive way.
Most parents do not realize that the reason their child is behaving out of character is because they are afraid or unsure about where their parent’s behavior is going, so they do whatever they can to get their attention. If you are spanking your child for no reason or their misbehavior is not serious enough then you have to have a talk about why unimportant behavior makes your child behave in unacceptable ways. You need to tell your child that acting out is caused by being scared, anxious or confused. These are emotions and the way you respond will determine whether he/she acts out.
What happens when kids act out? They feel angry, sad, scared and confused because they do not know how to regulate their emotions in a positive way. In this situation they often try to get attention with negative behavior. This can be anything from getting their preschools teacher in trouble to throwing tantrums at home because they feel frustrated and helpless. The most important thing is that children can express, correct and self-regulate their emotions in a positive way, which will make them learn new coping skills to manage their emotions when they are scared or angry.

i spanked my child and now i feel guilty
i spanked my child and now i feel guilty