The Normalization of Domestic Violence and the Role of Social Media

Introduction: Domestic abuse has been normalized in our society, with 1 in 4 women reporting experiencing physical violence and stalking by a partner. Social media has a huge role to play here, as abusers use this platform to escalate their attacks on women. The article discusses the different types of social media that enable abuse and outlines how they can be used to educate people about the realities of domestic violence.

This article is not going to focus on the legal aspects of domestic abuse, rather it is going to focus on what is normal according to the people who are experiencing abuse. The article will not discuss the definition of abuse, the problems with police responses to domestic abuse, the actions of social service agencies towards survivors, or the recent increase in reported incidents. The purpose of this piece is to talk to survivors about what is normal for them and what they would change if they had a choice. It is also important to note that there are many factors that contribute to someone becoming abusive; these will be discussed at the end.
First of all, I would like to talk about the different types of abuse as they relate to social media. These different types of abuse can be ‘normalised’ by social media and will allow abusers to dehumanise the victims further. The type of abuse that is normalised by social media are:
-Monitoring the person’s every move and looking for any faults in their interpersonal interactions. This can include private conversations with friends and or family.
-Publicly humiliating the person by creating screenshots, videos and or audio clips of a private conversation that was meant to be private. This can also include posting images taken from social media sites showing the person not wearing clothes or in revealing positions.

is normal for my girlfriend to hit me
is normal for my girlfriend to hit me

Domestic Abuse on Social Media, How It’s Affected Me

The most obvious and biggest problem for me is seeing constant updates from the man who assaulted me. He decided to change his Facebook name to something unassuming, so it would not seem so weird when my friends like and comment on his posts, sending him on a high. When I see his name pop up in an announcement or change on his status, I cringe and feel like I am being thrown back into the situation, which is something no one should have to go through. My anxiety has lowered my ability to stay involved with social media, but it has not affected all of my interests because I still check up on him about once every two weeks. He posts pictures and things about his friends and family, but also anything that reminds him of me. He once posted a picture of a sidewalk and wrote that he misses me being in his life. The picture was of a sunset, so it was very obtuse, but it brought up feelings I had long thought were gone. It’s unbelievable how much this person has affected my life in the years since the assault, and even more unbelievable is that he hasn’t had any repercussions for his actions. The worst part is that he gets to live a happy life, while I deal with the consequences of his actions every day.
I feel like I am in a prison [ARTICLE END]
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is normal for my girlfriend to hit me
is normal for my girlfriend to hit me

Social Media for Abusive Men and What We Can Do To Stop It

My abuser also has accounts on Instagram and Snapchat where he frequently posts pictures of his new life. He constantly tells everyone that I am a dangerous woman who is trying to ruin his life. I have been working on learning how to stop being affected by these updates, but it is difficult for me because I know that he is going on with his life as though mine was nothing. The fact that he was able to turn a bad situation for him into something positive for himself makes me realize how little he cares about this. I cannot imagine what it would be like to talk about this with someone who was truly concerned.
Which brings me to the issue of social media for abusive men. It is normal for them for a number of reasons, the first being that they are using the platform to act like their abuser or victim. This means that anything they say on social media is going to be seen by their victim and portrayed as though it is accurate and factual when it may not be. Abusive men and women can also use social media to make threats against their partners and even their own children. The victim usually feels powerless to do anything about it because they know that his or her abuser is aware of the social media accounts they have.

is normal for my girlfriend to hit me
is normal for my girlfriend to hit me

What is an Effective Strategy to Address Domestic Abuse From

It is important to consider how you can change the perception of abuse. Social media has allowed abusers to reach a wide audience, and have created a sort of community for them. They are also able to stay in constant contact with their victims and try to control them, which creates a cycle that gets worse as time goes on. There has been an increase in reported incidents of domestic violence in recent years, so it is likely that this behavior is not just occurring between two people who do not know each other but might still be dating. There is a huge problem with the way media has portrayed domestic abuse and it would be best if they started to portray a more realistic version.
This is a very complex topic, but the underlying idea is that abusers are not going to change their behavior unless they truly want to. This means that the abuser needs to talk about it with someone who can understand and help. It may be difficult for them to do this, but you need to make sure that you stay supportive and understanding. As much as possible, avoid reminding them of their abusive tendencies, as it will just make them dig in deeper with no real chance of changing. The best way to stay positive is for you to talk openly and honestly about what your experiences have been.

is normal for my girlfriend to hit me
is normal for my girlfriend to hit me