An Introduction to Domestic Abuse
First, you should read up on domestic abuse to understand the definition of what it is. Second, you should read up on the symptoms of someone being abused. Third, you should read up on how domestic abuse starts and what it entails. Finally, once you know all of this information, analyze if your girlfriend is being abused.
What Is Domestic Abuse?
Domestic abuse is the mistreatment of a person by another person who lives in the same household. It may also refer to any violent, threatening, or intimidating behavior that results in harm to an individual. It may involve physical abuse or the threat of such physical abuse. There are four major types of domestic violence: emotional, verbal/mental, sexual, and physical. Each requires its own course of action for proper treatment.
Symptoms of Domestic Abuse
Many people who are or have been abused may not realize that they are in an abusive relationship. Even if they do believe that their relationship is controlling or unhealthy, they may not see it as domestic abuse. If you want to know if your girlfriend is being abused, you should look out for these signs:
What is the Role of Emotional Abuse in Relationships?
A common definition of emotional abuse is a pattern of behavior carried out by the abuser to systematically manipulate the victim. The victim is often kept under control through emotional manipulation, threats, blame and guilt. Emotional abuse can seem less threatening than physical violence but it can actually be more damaging. Emotional abuse may not leave any visible scars but it leaves the victim with a deep sense of insecurity and low self-esteem.
At times, emotional abuse can be difficult to detect because the abuser is skilled at hiding it. For example, an abuser may play the role of loving, caring and concerned parent towards their children. The children are fooled by this act as they feel a certain level of safety and security in their home. This makes it difficult for a child to sense any type of abuse but there are signs that can be used to determine emotional abuse.
Potential Signs of Domestic Abuse & How to Recognize Them
Domestic abuse can take various forms and occur on varying degrees. It is usually a pattern of behavior rather than an isolated incident. In most cases, one form of abuse will escalate over time if it is left unchecked. Some warning signs to look out for include: Physical Abuse – This may involve pushing, slapping or punching the victim or inflicting pain through objects such as belts, knives or shoes. Particularly if the victim is younger and/or mentally ill, these signs of physical abuse may be disguised by their initial reaction of fear. Psychological Abuse – This involves humiliating and criticizing the victim in a way that causes them to constantly feel insecure. This type of abuse may involve lying and making threats or scaring the victim by threatening to harm themselves or their loved ones. Manipulation – This abuse is often characterized by the abuser withholding affection as a form of punishment. The abuser may also use this power to prevent the victim from leaving the relationship. Financial Abuse – This involves the perpetrator making all financial decisions on behalf of the victim. Victims will either have no access to their finances (i.e. they are not given direct access to their financial account) or they are provided with an “allowance” controlled by the abuser. Deprivation – This type of abuse involves the perpetrator withholding basic needs such as food, hygiene products, shelter, etc.
A Guide on How to Deal with Domestic Abuse and Why Abusers Don’t Quit by Changing Their Actions
When it comes to abusive relationships, the first thing people think of is the idea of the victim leaving their abuser. The problem with this is that many victims do try to leave their abusers but are often unable to do so for a number of reasons: They do not want to leave their children or family home. They are afraid that their abuser will harm them or the ones they love, including their children and/or family members. The abusers will often use these fears to manipulate them into staying in the relationship. They fear being rejected and/or humiliated by their friends, relatives and acquaintances. Some victims are emotionally unable to leave due to a sense of guilt or remorse for not having tried hard enough to liberate themselves or escape sooner. They are afraid of what their abuser will do when they are separated.
Abusers are experts at getting others to participate in their immoral behaviour, making them feel like they’re part of the problem and helping them rationalize away their abusive behaviour. Victims often end up with believing that something was their fault when they were abused, even if it was something as trivial as not having cleaned the house properly or served dinner on time. They fear losing financial security if they leave. If they are in a situation where they are unable to leave, like a husband/wife and their children or parents and the family home, then they will likely find themselves in an abusive relationship for the rest of their lives and can even be subject to violent abuse.
The Physical Impact of Domestic Violence and What You Can Do About It
Physical violence is a physical assault, the application of physical force by the abuser against the victim. It can result in serious physical injuries and even death. Physical violence often results in more than just physical injuries and can cause significant mental damage to the victim, including Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). One of the most common side effects of a violent attack is the victim’s skin becoming more sensitive to the sun. Skin cancer is a very common result of a violent attack. [The Sun’s Magnetic Field and Solar Activity in 2007-2009]
Men, on the other hand, have been conditioned to believe that they cannot be victims of violence. Men are taught to avoid engaging in conflict with others if they possibly can, rather than seeking out solutions to their problems or problemsolving if needed. Many men are afraid to seek help from others because they believe that they are weak, or even worse things such as “a sissy.”
“Victims of abuse often feel ashamed, guilty and other negative emotions. The effects of the abuser’s actions can be so intense that victims may not recognize that the abuser’s behavior is abusive until too late. They may not realize that the feelings of shame and guilt are caused by their own behavior rather than their partner’s actions. They may not realize that the feelings of anger, grief or depression are caused by the abuse rather than their own mental health.” [Victims of Abuse]